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No ... I tell you what. You want to have sex with me? Then there are no cop-outs. We go all the way. I only want to have sex with a man who understands what that means to a woman, deep down, emotionally, in her core. If I get pregnant, you're with me. We are in this together.

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Condoms are a shortcut. I'm not interested in shortcuts. They feel like a barrier. They feel like a way of avoiding true intimacy.

If we go all the way, we go ALL the way. The emotional intimacy needs to match the physical intimacy.

Otherwise, I'll take my abstinence any day. I feel happy in my abstinence until the day my man shows up ... the one who'll go with me all the way. The one who'll be by my side for the rest of my life in this incarnation.

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That's why I don't like condoms. That's why I won't use them.

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I told you she was a cum-slut!

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Jason Miller, my definition of abstinence is no penetration. That's where all the disease and pregnancy fears come from, and yes, it is different in my book than all the rest of it. Emotionally it feels like an entirely different planet once a guy has penetrated me.

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To several of you, the pull-out method does not fit with what I'm talking about ... I'm talking about going back to au natural and trusting that whatever's meant to happen pregnancy-wise will happen.

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To several of you, I don't believe that disease can survive in someone who is spiritually healthy, but that's kinda beside the point since I don't have sex.

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Also, I have healed several of my own medical conditions with Emotional Freedom Technique.

Originally Posted by Barry Kirkey

So yeah.. I CLOSED THE FORUMS... That's right... I closed it... ugh I hate the forums, 99.9 percent of my problems.

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Someone asked me to elaborate on this ... so here goes.

I don't like condoms because they are a cop-out. They are too "easy."

I hate how they feel. It's like someone took the saran-wrap out and drooped it all over everything, and how can anyone stand the drippy, icky way they feel after they've been used?

Let's go deeper. I feel sad when I see a used one on the sidewalk, all droopy and pathetic. What I envision is some anonymous encounter where neither person ever really connected.

Let's go deeper. Let's see ... I'm going to engage in this incredibly intimate act with someone and then ... well, it's like wearing gloves to shake hands. How impersonal does that feel?

No ... I tell you what. You want to have sex with me? Then there are no cop-outs. We go all the way. I only want to have sex with a man who understands what that means to a woman, deep down, emotionally, in her core. If I get pregnant, you're with me. We are in this together.

Condoms are a shortcut. I'm not interested in shortcuts. They feel like a barrier. They feel like a way of avoiding true intimacy.

If we go all the way, we go ALL the way. The emotional intimacy needs to match the physical intimacy.

Otherwise, I'll take my abstinence any day. I feel happy in my abstinence until the day my man shows up ... the one who'll go with me all the way. The one who'll be by my side for the rest of my life in this incarnation.

That's why I don't like condoms. That's why I won't use them.

When I say no to condoms, men have no choice but to face whatever they've been avoiding when it comes to intimacy.

No condoms, no casual sex, no disconnected sex, no being a "girlfriend." Either we are just friends, or you are the man who's here with me for the duration.

I feel happy to express all that. :-)

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To several of you, the pull-out method does not fit with what I'm talking about ... I'm talking about going back to au natural and trusting that whatever's meant to happen pregnancy-wise will happen.

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Also, I have healed several of my own medical conditions with Emotional Freedom Technique.

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Milarepa said...

Well, I stumbled into this thread as a first-time reader of Erika. I am a practising Mahayana Buddhist for over 6 years and have the following 3 insights to share on this topic:

1: Daria, I know people that have become pregnant the first day their period ended. It happens. They believed it would not happen due to the timing of their sex, but it did. Timing is NOT the most crucial factor in conceiving a child.

2. In order to incur an STD or ANY disease or injury, there must be present both a circumstantial and substantial cause. We are all familiar with what a circumstantial cause is (ie. exposure to a person already contaminated with a disease) but most people are unclear of what the SUBSTANTIAL CAUSE of incurring a disease is. Why do some people get sick and others do not when both may be equally exposed circumstantially to a 'source' of disease? The answer lies within the continuum of the person's mind. It is their karma.

The substantial cause for encountering ANY situation/ experience in this lifetime is a karmic potentiality that was created in a previous lifetime. Each of us has lived through countless lifetimes.

Diseases related to sexual activity stem from previous actions of sexual misconduct. Also, present actions of sexual misconduct can cause previous negative karma to ripen as a disease/ illness or discomfort. What is sexual misconduct? Rape. Incest. Pedophilia. Beastiality. Having sex with someone elses partner. Having sex with anyone other than the person you are in a committed relationship with. Having harmful thoughts towards the person you are being intimate with... These are all causes for future experiences of STDs and other un-wished-for unpleasantries.

Without the ackmowledgment of the law of karma, all explanations of 'how' and 'why' people experience the conditions they do in this lifetime fall short of finding a definitive answer.

3. The mind is a non-physical entity that has always and will always be. The mind is the creator of all things. It is the source of all pleasant and unpleasant feelings and the projector which appears the world that we perceive. If we purify our view of ourself and the world through abandoning negative attitudes and nurturing virtues, our world will appear to our mind as pure and free from faults. Only through changing our mind can we change the way the world appears to us.

In conclusion, Erika is not naive to believe in the purest potential of her partner. She has FAITH (a mind that opposes the perception of fault in it's observed object) that her life path (intensions) will lead her towards the outcome she believes in. Yes, she has an opinion on how she will conduct herself sexually, but the point she made about people being trapped by their own fears and doubts is entirely valid.

The meaning of this discussion here is not whether to wear a condom or not. It is that just because someone else says it's true, and just because it happened in someone else's life, doesn't mean you have to adopt a self-limiting belief system in order to 'protect' yourself from a hypothetical threat. The world is as dangerous and dirty as you imagine it to be. In other words, it is merely a reflection of what abides within your own mind.

Faith and Love (a wish for others to be happy) are always the correct answer.
November 30, 2009 10:26 AM

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I really hope this dumb bitch gets some sense at some point in her life.